The $50,000 Beer: Why Successful Men Use Escorts and Very Attractive Women Avoid Dating Apps

The podcast episode, "The $50,000 Beer," argues that traditional dating becomes prohibitively expensive for highly successful men, leading them to seek alternatives like escorts. Dr. Terban posits that the time, energy, and financial investment required for conventional dating yield a poor return on investment for these men, who often face frustration and disappointment. This dynamic is mirrored by extremely attractive women who also avoid conventional dating platforms, as their abundance of high-value options makes typical dates seem "too expensive" in terms of opportunity cost, exemplified by the "50,000 dollar beer" analogy.

A core distinction is drawn between scarcity and abundance mentalities, explaining how individuals value time versus money based on their economic realities. Successful men, operating from an abundance mentality, prioritize delegating tasks, including sexual encounters, to free up time for higher-earning or more fulfilling activities. The episode also highlights gendered dating dynamics, where women often have more sexual leverage in the traditional market, but this is reversed when men utilize sex workers, allowing them to select for their preferences rather than settling, and receiving the experience at their convenience and without traditional dating's associated problems.

For women seeking high-value men, the podcast advises against "playing hard to get" or imposing lengthy waiting periods for sex, as this strategy alienates desirable partners who have limited time and many options. Instead, women are encouraged to be sexually generous and seize opportunities quickly when encountering such men, treating it as a rare chance. For successful men, the implicit recommendation is to evaluate the true cost of traditional dating versus the efficiency and guaranteed outcomes offered by escorts, framing it as a rational economic decision based on optimizing resources.

The broader implications suggest that modern dating is increasingly shaped by economic principles like opportunity cost and ROI, transforming romantic relationships into a "resource redistribution scheme." The episode challenges conventional notions of dating by applying a pragmatic, cost-benefit analysis, revealing how success for men and extreme attractiveness for women can paradoxically make traditional romantic pursuits inefficient and undesirable, pushing them towards more transactional or unconventional arrangements that offer a better return on their valuable time and resources.

women do the right things with the wrong men

expecting time and attention and emotion and provision without providing sex in return is an extremely one-sided and expensive proposition in the dating game

if a woman won't sleep with a man until the third date as a rule then at $5,200 a date that amounts to $15,600 for a sexual encounter

what kind of man is going to wait around to see if a given woman thinks he's good enough to sleep with with I'll help you out it ain't going to be the attractive men with lots of options who already know their worth

from your perspective the world class Beauty it cost an all expense paid vacation to the Burge Dubai to her that is a $50,000 beer and guess what no [ __ ] beer is worth $50,000

the more successful a man is the more expensive traditional dating comes

an option that solves more of your problems for fewer resources will always be preferable to an option that solves few of your problems for more

scarcity mentality can keep people trapped in scarcity longer than they need to be

people with scarcity mentality count the dollars they spend and track the dollars they save by doing it themselves on the other hand people with abundance mentality count the hours they spend and track the dollars they save by delegating to others

For Better or Worse getting and maintaining women is one of the single greatest expenses incurred by men on this planet and romantic relationships are one of the largest resource redistribution schemes the world has ever seen

most men will have sex with most women but most women will not have sex with most men

successful men don't date for the same reason very attractive women don't they both have to pay much more for much less