The Unbreakable Rule: Eliminating Disrespect to Secure and Keep a Man

Dr. Orion Taban, in this third part of his "How to Get Any Man You Want" series, asserts that a woman's single status is her responsibility, just as a man's inability to attract is his. He outlines three crucial steps for women to secure a man: being useful, being sexually adventurous, and adhering to the "unbreakable rule" of never disrespecting him. The episode focuses primarily on the third rule, arguing that its violation negates any efforts made on the first two.

The podcast distinguishes between two reasons why the first two rules might fail: a "love savior complex" (attracting "project men" to fix them, akin to the "white knight complex" in men) or, more commonly, violating the unbreakable rule. It emphasizes that disrespect isn't just overt criticism but also includes subtle cues like contemptuous glances or impatient sighs. A critical nuance is that a man's perception of disrespect, not the woman's intention, is what truly matters, likening it to "the cat decides what milk is good."

Practical advice includes removing all forms of disrespect from communication, both direct and indirect (e.g., complaining about him to others). The speaker suggests a mental test: "Pretend you're talking to whoever you're talking about" and "If you wouldn't say that in that way to your boss or your CO, then do not say that in that way to your man." It's stressed that disagreement is possible without disrespect, as "respect is a quality of action." Men, when disrespected, are posited to have only one viable response: to leave, as fighting is not an option.

The broader implication is that women hold significant agency in their relationship outcomes through their communication and behavior. The episode touches on gender dynamics, suggesting men's "animal" nature responds to disrespect, while expecting "angelic patience" in return is illogical. It frames respect as a fundamental masculine ideal, drawing parallels to military culture. Ultimately, the choice is presented as keeping the man or keeping the disrespect, but not both, highlighting the profound impact of communication on relationship longevity and satisfaction.

"if you are single and you do not want to be it is your fault ladies"

"to get any man you want you only really need to do three things"

"The unbreakable rule is that you can't ever disrespect the man you want to be with period."

"a wise woman builds a house with her hands and tears it down with her mouth"

"disrespecting criticizing or attacking a man is going to arouse the animal in him"

"No amount of sex or assistance is enough to compensate for a disrespectful woman"

"respect is a quality of action if you can do something disrespectfully I guarantee that you can do the same thing respectfully"

"it doesn't matter whether or not you think something is disrespectful it matters whether he thinks something is disrespectful"

"If you wouldn't say that in that way to your boss or your CO, then do not say that in that way to your man"

"You can keep your man or you can keep your disrespect but you may not be able to keep both"